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Abandonment and Intimacy
A tension Filled Dynamic

They will certainly be familiar to you? People with busy social lives, who have successful careers, are content in their daily lives yet are still unlucky in love. People who are looking for a partner but who are unable to form a long-term, close and reciprocal relationship. People who have transitory or unrequited infatuations. People who never fall in love or, when they do, it is with the wrong person. People who have developed a pattern of always falling in love with someone who is unavailable, already in a relationship or who, for one reason or another is incapable of intimacy. People who are in a relationship which lacks either the mutual attachment or intimacy they long for or both; going through life more like brother and sister than as partners. Patterns like these that keep repeating themselves are an indication that it may be time to look beyond co-incidence and take a deeper look inwards to see how they run like a thread through your life.

Three Aspects That Prevent Loving

Pathwork Lecture: #107

When I offer you blessings, what do these words mean to you?  Do you hear them perhaps as mere words without meaning, without reality?  Blessings have a very definite reality, my friends. If you were but free, really free of all your barriers, all the layers that prevent you from feeling, from living, and from experiencing life to the fullest, these blessings would be a reality for you. You would feel the actual stream, the current of love that flows to each and every one of you from a world of light and freedom, from a world of harmony and truth, a world of love. But this stream of love is often unable to reach and penetrate you. You may not perceive and experience it because the senses that are destined for such perceptions are dulled by your fears, shame, and urgent wishes, and by your defenses, all of them are based on error, confusion, and misconception.

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Shame of the Higher Self

Pathwork Guide Lecture No. 66 | May 27, 1960"Greetings.

I bring you blessings, my dearest friends. Blessed is this hour. Blessed is each one of you and your dear ones.

I have discussed at length with you the guilt and shame all human beings feel about their lower selves, their faults and weaknesses, their misconceptions and deviations. Tonight I should like to discuss another aspect of the human personality, the shame about the higher self, the best and noblest in the human heart. This may sound incredible — nevertheless it is so. I am certain that you will all recognize the truth of these words when you listen carefully.

Strangely enough, people are just as ashamed of their faculties of love, humility, generosity — the very best they have to offer — as they are of the small, selfish and ungiving part of their nature. Let us consider what causes this inner tragedy, this senseless struggle. One main factor is responsible, which varies in extent, detail and manifestation with every individual."

Yes, It's Your Parent's Fault


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Exceptional Sex

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Pathwork Lecture: #38


Images: The Damage They Do

Pathwork Guide Lecture No. 41

Greetings in the Name of the Lord. My dear friends, I bring you blessings as usual. Blessed is this hour.

There is so much fear, shame and separateness in the human heart!  We recognize it again and again. The fear and shame are often hidden away, so that the personality is not even aware of them any more and just suffers vaguely in a continuous, gnawing pain. How sad it is to observe this, particularly because it is unnecessary. It is but a phantom, my friends. The fear and shame you are so busily hiding have no reality, and yet spoil the life you could enjoy and could use for building up your spiritual strength.

I am continuing this series about the images in the human soul, for there is no person who does not have them. Such inner impressions are formed in young years, and from those impressions wrong conclusions were drawn. These very images are responsible for your suffering, for the phantoms you carry about decade after decade, and often incarnation after incarnation.



The Spiritual Symbolism and
Significance of Sexuality

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Vicious Circle

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Idealized Self Image


The Sexual Excitement Survey
From The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin Ph.D

The Silence: The Legacy of Childhood Trauma

I never got any help, any kind of therapy. I never told anyone...

Full Article available online here with Audio.

Real and False Needs

Pathwork Guide Lecture No. 192 

Greetings to all of you, my friends. Blessings and strength are pouring forth. If you open your hearts as well as your minds, you can receive them.

I would like to begin in this lecture, which is the last in this season, by saying once again that most human beings are not yet aware of the immense spiritual potentials and powers they have. Now, what do I mean when I say spiritual potentials and powers?  I mean that these powers transcend by far the human capacities considered normal in your sphere of being.

These powers remain inaccessible or may even be dangerous if the human being is not purified to a certain degree, or if the consciousness is still in a state of half-sleep, which is always connected with destructive attitudes such as self-will, pride, fear, greed, envy, malice, cruelty, spite, and selfishness. The majority of human beings find themselves approximately ninety percent asleep and only ten percent awake to what exists in the world around them, and within themselves. The process of reawakening the self requires a great deal of effort, commitment, work, and also the willingness to sacrifice destructive patterns with their short-lived, expensive satisfactions. Only then can awareness gradually grow, perception sharpen, and new inner knowledge become available as a manifestation of the awakening real self.

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Anger and How it Affects Your Body and Your Brain

Peter Levine PhD on Shame